April 1, 2026
The Single Life: Ep. 3: Undivided: Choosing Devotion in Singleness
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Episode 3 of Single Life explores the spiritual advantage of singleness: undivided devotion to the Lord. Connie Morris uses scriptures (1 Corinthians 7:32–35, Matthew 6:33, James 4:8) to show how singleness creates opportunities for focused prayer, study, and spiritual growth, while warning against distractions such as situationships and social media.
The episode offers reflection questions, practical decrees, and encouragement to pursue God intentionally and build discipline in this season.
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00:19 - Welcome to the Podcast
01:00 - Single Life: The Biblical Way
07:31 - Encouragement for the Hidden
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00:00:10.013 --> 00:00:15.593
Welcome to the Diary of a Black Woman podcast, where we pray bold prayers,
00:00:16.073 --> 00:00:19.953
walk in bold faith, and expect a bold God to show up.
00:00:20.093 --> 00:00:25.673
I'm your host, Connie Morris, and we open every episode with the same unshakable
00:00:25.673 --> 00:00:29.613
confidence Jabez had in 1 Chronicles 4.10.
00:00:29.893 --> 00:00:33.473
Lord, bless me indeed, enlarge my territory.
00:00:34.013 --> 00:00:38.773
Let your hand be with me. Keep me from evil and keep me from causing pain.
00:00:38.773 --> 00:00:41.833
And the Bible says, God granted his request.
00:00:42.033 --> 00:00:45.573
So if you're here today, get ready, because we're praying big,
00:00:45.953 --> 00:00:51.813
believing big, and walking in everything God promised. Let's begin.
00:01:00.842 --> 00:01:04.862
Welcome back to the Diary of a Black Woman podcast. I'm your host, Connie Morris.
00:01:05.102 --> 00:01:10.222
We are continuing our series, Single Life, the Biblical Way.
00:01:10.482 --> 00:01:14.182
Our last episode, we spoke about singleness as a gift.
00:01:14.422 --> 00:01:20.322
And today, in episode three, we're going to talk about the unvited devotion to the Lord.
00:01:20.542 --> 00:01:24.122
And this is where the focus becomes everything.
00:01:24.162 --> 00:01:34.342
So let's get into it. Our first foundational scripture is found in 1 Corinthians 7, verses 32 and 35.
00:01:34.422 --> 00:01:37.462
And it reads, I want you to be free from concern.
00:01:37.662 --> 00:01:43.542
An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs and how he can please the Lord.
00:01:43.722 --> 00:01:48.442
I am saying this for your own good, that you may live a right way.
00:01:49.083 --> 00:01:52.183
In undivided devotion to the Lord.
00:01:52.403 --> 00:01:57.623
Other supporting scripture tells us in Matthew 6.33 that we should seek first
00:01:57.623 --> 00:02:00.523
the kingdom of God and his righteousness.
00:02:00.923 --> 00:02:05.483
And it goes on and he says, all these things will be added to you. So what are you missing?
00:02:05.603 --> 00:02:10.343
Or you think you're missing? Or what do you want to be added to you is first seek the kingdom.
00:02:10.783 --> 00:02:16.343
Psalms 46.10, my favorite is, be still and know that I am God.
00:02:16.583 --> 00:02:23.443
In our third scripture, James 4.8, It tells us to draw near to God and he will draw near to you.
00:02:23.623 --> 00:02:26.463
Don't that sound like a relationship you want to be a part of?
00:02:26.663 --> 00:02:28.463
Let's look at the devotional insight.
00:02:28.703 --> 00:02:33.103
It tells us that one of the greatest advantages of singleness is focus.
00:02:33.503 --> 00:02:37.963
Paul makes it clear that singleness creates the opportunity for undivided devotion,
00:02:37.963 --> 00:02:43.683
a life that is not pulled in multiple directions, but centered on pleasing God.
00:02:43.983 --> 00:02:48.743
This is not a limitation. It is a spiritual advantage. In marriage,
00:02:48.923 --> 00:02:51.183
tension is shared. Time is divided.
00:02:51.743 --> 00:02:54.903
Responsibilities increase. Decisions are no longer individual.
00:02:55.163 --> 00:02:59.363
But in singleness, there's a unique opportunity to give God your time,
00:02:59.643 --> 00:03:02.383
your attention, your energy without distraction.
00:03:02.663 --> 00:03:05.783
A real life example tells us this, that you have
00:03:06.133 --> 00:03:11.933
As a single person, time to pray, time to study the word, time to build something
00:03:11.933 --> 00:03:15.593
beautiful, and time to grow spiritually and personally.
00:03:16.113 --> 00:03:22.473
But instead, singles are spent hours scrolling, energy is given to situationships,
00:03:22.773 --> 00:03:27.113
emotions are invested in people who are not commended, and attention is constantly
00:03:27.113 --> 00:03:28.813
pulled in different directions.
00:03:29.353 --> 00:03:36.273
Meanwhile, someone who is married is thinking, I just had uninterrupted time with the Lord.
00:03:36.513 --> 00:03:40.573
What that shows is it is possible to have freedom and still have distractions.
00:03:41.053 --> 00:03:45.693
Distractions is not always obvious. It does not always come in the form of sin.
00:03:45.933 --> 00:03:49.913
It often comes in the form of misplaced attention.
00:03:50.353 --> 00:03:54.813
Spiritual reality tells us that whatever has your attention will eventually
00:03:54.813 --> 00:04:01.653
have your affection. Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also, Matthew 6 tells us.
00:04:01.773 --> 00:04:06.693
If your attention is constantly on people, notification, entertainment,
00:04:07.193 --> 00:04:11.693
emotional connections, then your devotion will slowly shift away from God,
00:04:11.973 --> 00:04:13.893
the sublimity of distractions.
00:04:14.821 --> 00:04:20.441
The solemnity of distractions. Distraction also often feels harmless.
00:04:20.741 --> 00:04:23.801
It sounds like I'll pray later. This isn't that serious.
00:04:24.081 --> 00:04:28.701
I'll just enjoy walking. I just enjoy talking to them. But over time,
00:04:28.921 --> 00:04:31.281
small distractions create spiritual distance.
00:04:31.741 --> 00:04:37.341
Ephesians 5, 15 and 16 tells us this. Be very careful then how you live,
00:04:37.481 --> 00:04:42.501
not as unwise, but as wise, making the most of every opportunity.
00:04:42.921 --> 00:04:46.921
Time is not just passing. It is being misused.
00:04:48.221 --> 00:04:53.761
Undivided does not mean passion. Undivided devotion is not just about avoiding distractions.
00:04:54.061 --> 00:04:59.161
It's about an intentional pursuit. It means choosing time with God over constant
00:04:59.161 --> 00:05:04.581
knowings, being disciples, building discipline in your daily walk,
00:05:04.721 --> 00:05:07.861
and growing in knowledge, wisdom, and spiritual maturity.
00:05:08.121 --> 00:05:14.141
Jeremiah 29, Psalm 9, 13 tells us, you will seek me and find me when you search
00:05:14.141 --> 00:05:18.201
for me with all of your heart.
00:05:18.441 --> 00:05:25.221
We see here that when you're intentional, intentional pursuit requires all your attention.
00:05:25.481 --> 00:05:28.761
And then God says, I'm not going to play hide and seek with you.
00:05:28.881 --> 00:05:31.201
He says, you will find me.
00:05:31.619 --> 00:05:35.599
Will you search for me with your heart? What are some distractions that are
00:05:35.599 --> 00:05:42.279
keeping us from searching with intentionality the God that we say we don't, right?
00:05:42.439 --> 00:05:46.059
Number one is situationships that drain emotional energy.
00:05:46.339 --> 00:05:49.119
Social media that consumes time and attention.
00:05:49.559 --> 00:05:50.799
Constant communication that
00:05:50.799 --> 00:05:55.039
replaces quiet time with God. Emotional dependency without commitment.
00:05:55.399 --> 00:06:00.419
These things do not always look harmful, but they divide what it means to be whole.
00:06:00.599 --> 00:06:04.979
Singleness, gives you time, but you still have to choose focus.
00:06:05.379 --> 00:06:11.679
Undivided devotion is not automatic. It's a decision that you have to make every day.
00:06:11.919 --> 00:06:15.139
What are some reflection questions that you can ask yourself?
00:06:15.379 --> 00:06:17.479
What currently has most of your attention?
00:06:17.799 --> 00:06:21.559
Have I allowed distractions to take the place of devotion?
00:06:21.819 --> 00:06:28.119
And what changes do I need to make to prioritize my relationship with God? Let's pray.
00:06:28.359 --> 00:06:34.279
Lord, help me to recognize the value of this season. Teach me to focus on you without distraction.
00:06:34.759 --> 00:06:41.659
Reveal anything in my life that is divided by dividing my attention and pulling me away from you.
00:06:41.979 --> 00:06:45.559
Give me discipline to seek you constantly and wholeheartedly.
00:06:45.719 --> 00:06:50.799
And let my life reflect true devotion, not divided, but be fully surrendered.
00:06:51.159 --> 00:06:55.499
In Jesus' name, amen. Let's do some decrees and make it solid in our life.
00:06:55.499 --> 00:06:57.959
I will give God my full attention and devotion.
00:06:58.239 --> 00:07:03.879
I wouldn't allow distractions to divide my focus. I choose discipline over distraction,
00:07:03.879 --> 00:07:06.739
and I will seek God first in all things.
00:07:06.919 --> 00:07:11.639
My energy and attention belongs to God.
00:07:11.939 --> 00:07:16.959
Coming to a conclusion of episode three, Undivided Devotion to the Lord.
00:07:17.179 --> 00:07:21.139
Well, thank you for listening. I hope something in today's episode spoke to
00:07:21.139 --> 00:07:23.819
you, and gave you something that
00:07:23.819 --> 00:07:28.279
you can apply. Take time to reflect on it and then take it back to God.
00:07:28.639 --> 00:07:31.899
I'm your host, Cady Morris, and this is the Diary of a Black Woman podcast.
00:07:32.219 --> 00:07:35.519
And I'll see you on the next episode.
00:07:46.635 --> 00:07:51.095
Family, thank you for spending this time with me today. To every woman listening
00:07:51.095 --> 00:07:56.875
who has ever felt hidden, overlooked, or pushed aside, I want you to hear me clearly.
00:07:57.175 --> 00:08:00.055
God has not forgotten you, and neither have I.
00:08:00.215 --> 00:08:05.515
That's why I moved everything to our new home on pod page, so you would have
00:08:05.515 --> 00:08:09.075
one place to connect with me, read the devotionals, listen to the podcast,
00:08:09.415 --> 00:08:11.315
and reach out whenever you need to.
00:08:11.475 --> 00:08:16.335
If you want to leave me a message, send an email, or simply find encouragement,
00:08:16.535 --> 00:08:19.995
it's all there at diaryofablackwomanllc.com.
00:08:20.115 --> 00:08:24.155
And if this podcast has blessed you and you want to support the work I'm doing,
00:08:24.415 --> 00:08:28.035
you'll find a buy me, a coffee link on the site as well.
00:08:28.255 --> 00:08:32.415
No pressure, just love and community. Before we leave, I want to speak the word
00:08:32.415 --> 00:08:35.435
that I close with every time because somebody needs this reminder today.
00:08:35.595 --> 00:08:38.335
It comes from Jeremiah 29 11 14.
00:08:38.655 --> 00:08:43.155
I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and
00:08:43.155 --> 00:08:47.295
not to harm you, plans to give you hope in a future, then you will call upon
00:08:47.295 --> 00:08:50.495
me and come and pray to me and I will listen to you.
00:08:50.675 --> 00:08:54.335
You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
00:08:54.535 --> 00:08:57.975
I will be found by you, declares the Lord.
00:08:58.355 --> 00:09:02.855
Beloved, God has a plan for your life, a real one, a good one.
00:09:02.955 --> 00:09:08.855
And as long as you keep seeking him, you will find him even from the hidden places. I love you.
00:09:08.955 --> 00:09:11.415
I'm praying for you, and I'll meet you next time.
00:00:10.013 --> 00:00:15.593
Welcome to the Diary of a Black Woman podcast, where we pray bold prayers,
00:00:16.073 --> 00:00:19.953
walk in bold faith, and expect a bold God to show up.
00:00:20.093 --> 00:00:25.673
I'm your host, Connie Morris, and we open every episode with the same unshakable
00:00:25.673 --> 00:00:29.613
confidence Jabez had in 1 Chronicles 4.10.
00:00:29.893 --> 00:00:33.473
Lord, bless me indeed, enlarge my territory.
00:00:34.013 --> 00:00:38.773
Let your hand be with me. Keep me from evil and keep me from causing pain.
00:00:38.773 --> 00:00:41.833
And the Bible says, God granted his request.
00:00:42.033 --> 00:00:45.573
So if you're here today, get ready, because we're praying big,
00:00:45.953 --> 00:00:51.813
believing big, and walking in everything God promised. Let's begin.
00:01:00.842 --> 00:01:04.862
Welcome back to the Diary of a Black Woman podcast. I'm your host, Connie Morris.
00:01:05.102 --> 00:01:10.222
We are continuing our series, Single Life, the Biblical Way.
00:01:10.482 --> 00:01:14.182
Our last episode, we spoke about singleness as a gift.
00:01:14.422 --> 00:01:20.322
And today, in episode three, we're going to talk about the unvited devotion to the Lord.
00:01:20.542 --> 00:01:24.122
And this is where the focus becomes everything.
00:01:24.162 --> 00:01:34.342
So let's get into it. Our first foundational scripture is found in 1 Corinthians 7, verses 32 and 35.
00:01:34.422 --> 00:01:37.462
And it reads, I want you to be free from concern.
00:01:37.662 --> 00:01:43.542
An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs and how he can please the Lord.
00:01:43.722 --> 00:01:48.442
I am saying this for your own good, that you may live a right way.
00:01:49.083 --> 00:01:52.183
In undivided devotion to the Lord.
00:01:52.403 --> 00:01:57.623
Other supporting scripture tells us in Matthew 6.33 that we should seek first
00:01:57.623 --> 00:02:00.523
the kingdom of God and his righteousness.
00:02:00.923 --> 00:02:05.483
And it goes on and he says, all these things will be added to you. So what are you missing?
00:02:05.603 --> 00:02:10.343
Or you think you're missing? Or what do you want to be added to you is first seek the kingdom.
00:02:10.783 --> 00:02:16.343
Psalms 46.10, my favorite is, be still and know that I am God.
00:02:16.583 --> 00:02:23.443
In our third scripture, James 4.8, It tells us to draw near to God and he will draw near to you.
00:02:23.623 --> 00:02:26.463
Don't that sound like a relationship you want to be a part of?
00:02:26.663 --> 00:02:28.463
Let's look at the devotional insight.
00:02:28.703 --> 00:02:33.103
It tells us that one of the greatest advantages of singleness is focus.
00:02:33.503 --> 00:02:37.963
Paul makes it clear that singleness creates the opportunity for undivided devotion,
00:02:37.963 --> 00:02:43.683
a life that is not pulled in multiple directions, but centered on pleasing God.
00:02:43.983 --> 00:02:48.743
This is not a limitation. It is a spiritual advantage. In marriage,
00:02:48.923 --> 00:02:51.183
tension is shared. Time is divided.
00:02:51.743 --> 00:02:54.903
Responsibilities increase. Decisions are no longer individual.
00:02:55.163 --> 00:02:59.363
But in singleness, there's a unique opportunity to give God your time,
00:02:59.643 --> 00:03:02.383
your attention, your energy without distraction.
00:03:02.663 --> 00:03:05.783
A real life example tells us this, that you have
00:03:06.133 --> 00:03:11.933
As a single person, time to pray, time to study the word, time to build something
00:03:11.933 --> 00:03:15.593
beautiful, and time to grow spiritually and personally.
00:03:16.113 --> 00:03:22.473
But instead, singles are spent hours scrolling, energy is given to situationships,
00:03:22.773 --> 00:03:27.113
emotions are invested in people who are not commended, and attention is constantly
00:03:27.113 --> 00:03:28.813
pulled in different directions.
00:03:29.353 --> 00:03:36.273
Meanwhile, someone who is married is thinking, I just had uninterrupted time with the Lord.
00:03:36.513 --> 00:03:40.573
What that shows is it is possible to have freedom and still have distractions.
00:03:41.053 --> 00:03:45.693
Distractions is not always obvious. It does not always come in the form of sin.
00:03:45.933 --> 00:03:49.913
It often comes in the form of misplaced attention.
00:03:50.353 --> 00:03:54.813
Spiritual reality tells us that whatever has your attention will eventually
00:03:54.813 --> 00:04:01.653
have your affection. Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also, Matthew 6 tells us.
00:04:01.773 --> 00:04:06.693
If your attention is constantly on people, notification, entertainment,
00:04:07.193 --> 00:04:11.693
emotional connections, then your devotion will slowly shift away from God,
00:04:11.973 --> 00:04:13.893
the sublimity of distractions.
00:04:14.821 --> 00:04:20.441
The solemnity of distractions. Distraction also often feels harmless.
00:04:20.741 --> 00:04:23.801
It sounds like I'll pray later. This isn't that serious.
00:04:24.081 --> 00:04:28.701
I'll just enjoy walking. I just enjoy talking to them. But over time,
00:04:28.921 --> 00:04:31.281
small distractions create spiritual distance.
00:04:31.741 --> 00:04:37.341
Ephesians 5, 15 and 16 tells us this. Be very careful then how you live,
00:04:37.481 --> 00:04:42.501
not as unwise, but as wise, making the most of every opportunity.
00:04:42.921 --> 00:04:46.921
Time is not just passing. It is being misused.
00:04:48.221 --> 00:04:53.761
Undivided does not mean passion. Undivided devotion is not just about avoiding distractions.
00:04:54.061 --> 00:04:59.161
It's about an intentional pursuit. It means choosing time with God over constant
00:04:59.161 --> 00:05:04.581
knowings, being disciples, building discipline in your daily walk,
00:05:04.721 --> 00:05:07.861
and growing in knowledge, wisdom, and spiritual maturity.
00:05:08.121 --> 00:05:14.141
Jeremiah 29, Psalm 9, 13 tells us, you will seek me and find me when you search
00:05:14.141 --> 00:05:18.201
for me with all of your heart.
00:05:18.441 --> 00:05:25.221
We see here that when you're intentional, intentional pursuit requires all your attention.
00:05:25.481 --> 00:05:28.761
And then God says, I'm not going to play hide and seek with you.
00:05:28.881 --> 00:05:31.201
He says, you will find me.
00:05:31.619 --> 00:05:35.599
Will you search for me with your heart? What are some distractions that are
00:05:35.599 --> 00:05:42.279
keeping us from searching with intentionality the God that we say we don't, right?
00:05:42.439 --> 00:05:46.059
Number one is situationships that drain emotional energy.
00:05:46.339 --> 00:05:49.119
Social media that consumes time and attention.
00:05:49.559 --> 00:05:50.799
Constant communication that
00:05:50.799 --> 00:05:55.039
replaces quiet time with God. Emotional dependency without commitment.
00:05:55.399 --> 00:06:00.419
These things do not always look harmful, but they divide what it means to be whole.
00:06:00.599 --> 00:06:04.979
Singleness, gives you time, but you still have to choose focus.
00:06:05.379 --> 00:06:11.679
Undivided devotion is not automatic. It's a decision that you have to make every day.
00:06:11.919 --> 00:06:15.139
What are some reflection questions that you can ask yourself?
00:06:15.379 --> 00:06:17.479
What currently has most of your attention?
00:06:17.799 --> 00:06:21.559
Have I allowed distractions to take the place of devotion?
00:06:21.819 --> 00:06:28.119
And what changes do I need to make to prioritize my relationship with God? Let's pray.
00:06:28.359 --> 00:06:34.279
Lord, help me to recognize the value of this season. Teach me to focus on you without distraction.
00:06:34.759 --> 00:06:41.659
Reveal anything in my life that is divided by dividing my attention and pulling me away from you.
00:06:41.979 --> 00:06:45.559
Give me discipline to seek you constantly and wholeheartedly.
00:06:45.719 --> 00:06:50.799
And let my life reflect true devotion, not divided, but be fully surrendered.
00:06:51.159 --> 00:06:55.499
In Jesus' name, amen. Let's do some decrees and make it solid in our life.
00:06:55.499 --> 00:06:57.959
I will give God my full attention and devotion.
00:06:58.239 --> 00:07:03.879
I wouldn't allow distractions to divide my focus. I choose discipline over distraction,
00:07:03.879 --> 00:07:06.739
and I will seek God first in all things.
00:07:06.919 --> 00:07:11.639
My energy and attention belongs to God.
00:07:11.939 --> 00:07:16.959
Coming to a conclusion of episode three, Undivided Devotion to the Lord.
00:07:17.179 --> 00:07:21.139
Well, thank you for listening. I hope something in today's episode spoke to
00:07:21.139 --> 00:07:23.819
you, and gave you something that
00:07:23.819 --> 00:07:28.279
you can apply. Take time to reflect on it and then take it back to God.
00:07:28.639 --> 00:07:31.899
I'm your host, Cady Morris, and this is the Diary of a Black Woman podcast.
00:07:32.219 --> 00:07:35.519
And I'll see you on the next episode.
00:07:46.635 --> 00:07:51.095
Family, thank you for spending this time with me today. To every woman listening
00:07:51.095 --> 00:07:56.875
who has ever felt hidden, overlooked, or pushed aside, I want you to hear me clearly.
00:07:57.175 --> 00:08:00.055
God has not forgotten you, and neither have I.
00:08:00.215 --> 00:08:05.515
That's why I moved everything to our new home on pod page, so you would have
00:08:05.515 --> 00:08:09.075
one place to connect with me, read the devotionals, listen to the podcast,
00:08:09.415 --> 00:08:11.315
and reach out whenever you need to.
00:08:11.475 --> 00:08:16.335
If you want to leave me a message, send an email, or simply find encouragement,
00:08:16.535 --> 00:08:19.995
it's all there at diaryofablackwomanllc.com.
00:08:20.115 --> 00:08:24.155
And if this podcast has blessed you and you want to support the work I'm doing,
00:08:24.415 --> 00:08:28.035
you'll find a buy me, a coffee link on the site as well.
00:08:28.255 --> 00:08:32.415
No pressure, just love and community. Before we leave, I want to speak the word
00:08:32.415 --> 00:08:35.435
that I close with every time because somebody needs this reminder today.
00:08:35.595 --> 00:08:38.335
It comes from Jeremiah 29 11 14.
00:08:38.655 --> 00:08:43.155
I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and
00:08:43.155 --> 00:08:47.295
not to harm you, plans to give you hope in a future, then you will call upon
00:08:47.295 --> 00:08:50.495
me and come and pray to me and I will listen to you.
00:08:50.675 --> 00:08:54.335
You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
00:08:54.535 --> 00:08:57.975
I will be found by you, declares the Lord.
00:08:58.355 --> 00:09:02.855
Beloved, God has a plan for your life, a real one, a good one.
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And as long as you keep seeking him, you will find him even from the hidden places. I love you.
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I'm praying for you, and I'll meet you next time.