April 3, 2026

The Single Life: Ep. 5: Stay Where You're Called: Faith Over Waiting

The Single Life: Ep. 5: Stay Where You're Called: Faith Over Waiting
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The Single Life: Ep. 5: Stay Where You're Called: Faith Over Waiting
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In episode five of The Single Life, Connie Morris challenges single listeners to remain faithful where God has placed them and warns against delaying purpose by waiting for a relationship. Using 1 Corinthians 7:17 and supporting scriptures, she explains that obedience and character are developed now, not later.

Connie offers reflective questions, a prayer for bold obedience, and a declaration to steward current gifts and assignments. This episode encourages action, discipline, and trust in God’s timing.

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00:19 - Welcome to the Podcast

01:00 - The Single Life Series

08:16 - Encouragement for the Overlooked

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Welcome to the Diary of a Black Woman podcast, where we pray bold prayers,

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walk in bold faith, and expect a bold God to show up.

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I'm your host, Connie Morris, and we open every episode with the same unshakable

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confidence Jabez had in 1 Chronicles 4.10.

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Lord, bless me indeed, enlarge my territory, let your hand be with me,

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keep me from evil, and keep me from causing pain. And the Bible says,

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God granted his request.

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So if you're here today, get ready, because we're praying big,

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believing big, and walking in everything God promised. Let's begin.

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Hello, and welcome back to the Diary of a Black Woman podcast.

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I'm your host, Connie Morris, and we are continuing our series, The Single Life.

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Our last episode, we had a very lengthy episode on self-control matters,

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went into great detail about why it matters.

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Now, the Holy Spirit is the guardian over your life if you let Him, okay?

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And today, we are in episode five. This episode is called, Stay Where You Are Called.

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And this one also challenges us on how we move. So let's get into it.

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Our foundational scripture is 1 Corinthians 7, 17,

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Verses 17 and 20, it reads, Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer

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in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them.

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Verse 7, 20 tells us each person should remain in a situation they were in when God called them.

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Supporting Scripture tells us in Zechariah 4, 10, do not despise these small

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beginnings. Matthew 25, 21, well done, good and faithful servant.

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You have been faithful over a few things.

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In 1 Corinthians 10, 31, whatever you do, do it for the glory of God.

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In Proverbs 16, 3, it says, commit your work to the Lord and your plans will be established.

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Let's go to our devotional insight. But Paul gives us a clear instructions that

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many overlook. look, stay where you are called.

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I have that in bold print. So stay where you are called. This does not mean remain stagnant.

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It means remain faithful and engaged in the season you are in.

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One of the greatest dangers of singleness is not loneliness, it's delay.

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Delay in purpose, delay in growth, delay in obedience, delay in development.

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Because of a mindset that says, I will fully step into my life when I get married,

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when I meet the right person, when things finally changed.

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But scripture does not support that thinking.

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God does not call you to wait to live. He calls you to live faithfully where you are.

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Let's check out some real life examples here. You have ideas,

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goals, and assignments in your heart. A business you've been thinking about starting.

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A ministry you feel led to step into.

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Growth areas where God has been pressing on.

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But instead of moving forward, you pause and you tell yourself,

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I'll do that once I get married and I'll settle down.

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When I find the right person, then I'll really focus.

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I don't want to build something alone. So you wait.

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And while you're waiting, opportunities pass, growth slows, confidence decreases,

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distraction increases, not because God hasn't called you, but because you've

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tied your obedience to a relationship.

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What this is, is not patience. It is postponed obedience.

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And postponed obedience is still disobedience. Spiritual reality.

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God assigns seasons intentionally. The Lord will fulfill his purpose for me, Psalms 38.8.

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That means your purpose is not waiting for another person to begin.

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It's already been activated by God. That means your purpose is not waiting for another person.

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That's the trap of when thinking. When I get married, then I will.

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The mindset creates delay, dependency, and disengagement.

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It shifts focus away from God's current assignment to a future scenario that has not happened.

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Whoever can be trusted with very little can be trusted with much, Luke 16 10.

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Faithfulness is proven now, not later. God develops before he expands.

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Before God's brain increased, he develops character, discipline,

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consistency, responsibility.

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Don't those sound like bad words? It's like, Lord, how much longer, how much longer?

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My goodness, you build character, discipline, consistency, and responsibility.

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Okay, I'm not there yet. All right. If these things are not built in singleness,

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they will not suddenly appear in marriage.

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Marriage does not fix lack of discipline.

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It often exposes it. You do not prepare for purpose later. You walk in it now.

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And often what you build in this season becomes the very thing you carry into

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the next, the modern trap.

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Living in imagination instead of action.

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Waiting for a companionship before commitment to purpose, seeking validation

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before obedience, allowing distractions to displace direction.

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This is how purpose becomes delayed, not because God is withholding,

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but because you are hesitating. Your calling does not wait.

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For relationship status. God has already given you time, ability,

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opportunity, and direction.

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The question is not, when will

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it happen? The question is, what am I doing with what I have right now?

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Let's ask ourselves some questions.

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That one pinched a little bit. I don't know about you, but in what areas have

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I delayed obedience waiting for relationship?

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What has God already placed in my hands that I have not fully pursued?

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Am I actively walking in purpose or waiting for something to change first?

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Where is God calling me to move forward now?

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Let's pray. Father, in the name of Jesus, help me to be faithful in the season I am in.

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Remove every mindset that causes me to delay obedience or wait to live fully.

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Give me clarity about what you have called me to do right now.

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Strengthen me to move forward with confidence, discipline, and trust in you.

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Let me not waste this season, but maximize it for your glory. In Jesus' name, amen.

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I decree I will not delay obedience waiting for a relationship.

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I am faithful in the season God has assigned to me. I will walk in purpose now, not later.

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I reject passivity, hesitation, and distraction.

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What God has placed in my hands, I will steward well.

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My life is active, purposeful, and aligned with God.

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Thank you again for listening, for taking part in.

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It's pretty much the conversation that God is having with me,

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but I'm letting you listen in.

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And I hope it's blessing you because this episode has really kind of challenged

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me, and I hope it challenged you.

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And it gave me something that I can apply to my life. Because mentally,

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we don't think we're delaying our best, but this shows us that God is the one

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that sees that we are holding out on giving him our best until what?

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Some future event that may never happen. But I want you to take time to reflect on it.

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Take time to give it back to God and ask him to make it right, make it tight.

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So I'm your host, Connie Morris, and this is The Diary of a Black Woman Podcast.

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And I will definitely see you on the next episode.

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Family, thank you for spending this time with me today. To every woman listening

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who has ever felt hidden, overlooked, or pushed aside, I want you to hear me clearly.

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God has not forgotten you, and neither have I.

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That's why I moved everything to our new home on pod page, so you would have

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one place to connect with me, read the devotionals, listen to the podcast,

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and reach out whenever you need to.

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it's all there at DiaryOfABlackWomanLLC.com.

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you'll find a Buy Me, a Ko-fi link on the site as well.

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No pressure, just love and community. Before we leave, I want to speak the word

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that I close with every time because somebody needs this reminder today.

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It comes from Jeremiah 29, 11, 14.

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I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and

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not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future, then you will call upon

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me and come and pray to me and I will listen to you.

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You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

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I will be found by you, declares the Lord.

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Beloved, God has a plan for your life, a real one, a good one,

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and as long as you keep seeking him, you will find him even from the hidden places. I love you.

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I'm praying for you and I'll meet you next time.