April 4, 2026

The Single Life: Ep. 6: You Are Not Missing Out — Freedom from FOMO

The Single Life: Ep. 6: You Are Not Missing Out — Freedom from FOMO
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The Single Life: Ep. 6: You Are Not Missing Out — Freedom from FOMO
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Connie Morris addresses the fear of missing out in singleness, using Scripture to challenge comparison and encourage contentment. She explains how FOMO pressures decisions, distorts discernment, and pushes people ahead of God, and invites listeners to trust God’s timing.

The episode includes practical reflection questions, a prayer to release anxiety and comparison, and a declaration to walk in peace and alignment with God’s plan.

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00:19 - Opening Boldly in Faith

01:00 - Embracing The Single Life

07:57 - Connecting Through Community

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Welcome to the Diary of a Black Woman podcast, where we pray bold prayers,

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walk in bold faith, and expect a bold God to show up.

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I'm your host, Connie Morris, and we open every episode with the same unshakable

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confidence Jabez had in 1 Chronicles 4.10.

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Lord, bless me indeed, enlarge my territory, let your hand be with me,

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keep me from evil, and keep me from causing pain. And the Bible says,

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God granted his request.

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So if you're here today, get ready, because we're praying big,

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believing big, and walking in everything God promised. Let's begin.

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Welcome back to Diary of Black Women Podcast. I'm your host,

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Connie Morris, and we are continuing our series, The Single Life.

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In our last episode, we spoke about stay where you are called.

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Stay on your assignment. If God has called you to be single, be single.

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If he called you to be married, be married, but be on your assignment.

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And today's episode, in episode six, this episode is called You Are Not Missing Out.

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And the subtitle is Freedom from FOMO, The Fear of Missing Out.

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And this will free your mind. So let's get into it.

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Our foundational scripture here is found in 1 Timothy 6.

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Godliness with contentment is great.

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Gain. 2 Corinthians 10.12 tells us they measure themselves by themselves are not wise.

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And then Proverbs 10.22, the blessing of the Lord makes rich and he has no sorrow with it.

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And finally, Hebrews 3.15 tells us keep your lives from the love of money and

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be content with what you have. Reversional insight.

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One of the quietest pressures of singleness is not always loneliness. It's comparison.

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And comparison often produces something deeper. FOMO, the fear of missing out.

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It sounds like this. Everyone else in the relationship, I'm the only single

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one. I'm still single. What if I missed my chance?

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What if this is my only opportunity? FOMO creates urgency that God has not.

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It pressures decisions. It distorts discernment. It causes people to move ahead

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of God instead of with Him.

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Real life example, you attend a wedding. Everyone is smiling,

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celebrating, taking pictures.

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Love is on display. You leave, you go home, and suddenly your thoughts shift. When is it my turn?

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Why hasn't it happened for me? Am I falling behind?

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Or you scroll online and see engagements, anniversary, couple posts,

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couple goals, and something in you begins to feel like you are missing out on life.

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What this reveals, FOMO is not about what you see. It's about what you believe you lack.

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But scripture warns us against this mindset.

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It tells us in 2 Corinthians 10, 12, they measure themselves by themselves.

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Are not wise. Comparison creates a false standard.

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A false standard will always lead to unnecessary pressure.

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The illusion of what you see, what is visible, is not always complete.

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You may see the wedding, the smiles, the celebration, but what you don't see

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is the private struggles, the disagreements, the responsibility,

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the weight of maintaining the relationship.

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The blessings of The Lord makes rich and adds no sorrow to it. Proverbs 10, 22.

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So anything that God gives you doesn't add sorrow.

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So even if you have trouble in your relationship, that'll mean God hooked it up.

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It's going to be all right. A lot of times we think we are the blessing, single folks.

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And remember, the Lord makes rich and he adds no sorrow to it.

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So wherever he's assigned you, if you really take that to heart, guess what?

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There's no sorrow with it. If something is truly from God, it will not come

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with confusion, pressure, or regret.

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The spiritual reality of this is that FOMO, the fear of missing out,

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pushes you to choose quickly.

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God calls you to choose wisely. FOMO says, don't miss this. This might be your only chance.

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And God says, trust me, what I have for you is not rush.

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Dang, that feels peaceful, don't it? God says, what I have for you, you don't have to rush.

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Wait for the Lord. Be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord. Psalms 27, 14.

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The danger of FOMO, the fear of missing out. When decisions are driven by fear or missing out, often.

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Into relationships they were never meant to be in. Ignore red flags and I always

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say red flashing lights. Bring standards.

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Accept treatment that does not honor God.

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Confuse opportunity with assignment.

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FOMO does not lead to peace. It leads to pressure, anxiety, and misalignment.

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Contentment is protection.

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Contentment is not settling. It's trusting God's timing without pressure.

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Hebrews 13, 5 tells us, keep your life free, be content with what you have,

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because God has said, never will I leave you.

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And he tells you that in the Amplified Version, it says, never,

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never, never will I leave you or forsake you.

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So God says, I will never leave you or forsake you. So you're never alone.

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The timid protects you from rushing, comparing, settling, and forcing connection.

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The spiritual What God has for you cannot be missed, cannot be taken,

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come on now, and cannot be rushed.

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You do not have to compete for it, and you do not have to chase it.

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You only need to remain aligned with God.

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You are not missing out. You are being positioned.

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Anything causes you to feel pressure, rush, or anxious is not how God leads.

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Let's reflect on these things. What have I made decisions out of fear or missing out?

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Where has comparison influenced my thinking? Am I trusting God's timing or trying to force my own?

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Do I feel pressure to be in a relationship? And where is that coming from?

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Let's pray. Lord, help me to release every fear of missing out.

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Remove comparison, pressure, and anxiety from my heart.

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Teach me to trust your timing and your plan for my life. Give me contentment

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in this season and confidence in what you have for me.

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Let me not move ahead of you, but walk in alignment with you. In Jesus' name, amen.

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That's decree. I decree I am not missing out. I am aligned with God.

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I will not make decisions based on fear or oppression. I trust God's timing completely.

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I reject comparison and embrace contentment. What God has for me will come in his time.

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I walk in peace and not pressure.

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Wow. No more fear of being, fear of missing out, ladies.

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God says, I will bring it to you in my timing.

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Well, I thank you for listening. And I hope something in this episode spoke

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to you, challenged you, and gave you something you can apply to your life today.

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Take time to reflect on it. And I want you to take it back to God.

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I'm your host, Connie Morris.

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And this is Diary of a Black Woman Podcast.

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And as we're closing out, I'll see you on the seventh episode. Goodbye.

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Family, thank you for spending this time with me today. To every woman listening

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who has ever felt hidden, overlooked, or pushed aside, I want you to hear me clearly.

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God has not forgotten you, and neither have I.

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No pressure, just love and community. Before we leave, I want to speak the word

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that I close with every time because somebody needs this reminder today.

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It comes from Jeremiah 29, 11, 14.

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I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and

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not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future, then you will call upon

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me and come and pray to me and I will listen to you.

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You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

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I will be found by you, declares the Lord.

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Beloved, God has a plan for your life, a real one, a good one,

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and as long as you keep seeking him, you will find him even from the hidden places. I love you.

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I'm praying for you, and I'll meet you next time.