April 6, 2026
The Single Life: Ep.8: The Blessing of Singleness: Finding God in the Waiting
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Connie Morris explores singleness as a season of formation, protection, and devotion to God, unpacking Jeremiah 29:11–14 and practical scriptures that show how God uses this time to prepare your purpose and protect your heart.
This episode highlights the spiritual blessings of singleness — intimacy with God, discernment, and freedom from premature connections — and encourages listeners to seek God wholeheartedly while trusting His timing.
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00:19 - Welcome to the Podcast
01:00 - The Blessing of Singleness
21:26 - God’s Unwavering Promise
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Welcome to the Diary of a Black Woman podcast, where we pray bold prayers,
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walk in bold faith, and expect a bold God to show up.
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I'm your host, Connie Morris, and we open every episode with the same unshakable
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confidence Jabez had in 1 Chronicles 4.10.
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Lord, bless me indeed, enlarge my territory, let your hand be with me,
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keep me from evil, and keep me from causing pain. And the Bible says,
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God granted his request.
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So if you're here today, get ready, because we're praying big,
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believing big, and walking in everything God promised. Let's begin.
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Welcome to the Diary of a Black Woman Podcast.
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I want to welcome you all back. I'm your host, Connie Morris. We are...
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Closing out our series, The Single Life, our last episode, we talked a lot about
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the danger of misusing singleness.
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And you have to go back and listen to that. That was really good.
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But today, we're on our final episode. It's a bonus episode.
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This episode is titled, The Blessing of Singleness. And this is where everything comes together.
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So let's get into it. The anchor scripture is found in Jeremiah 29,
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11, and it says, For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord.
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But really, you have to read the whole thing. Remember, if you're going to read
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the Bible, don't just read one little scripture.
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Read the scripture before and the scripture after it, so you can get the true
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context of the scripture.
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So we're going to talk about the blessings of singleness. And it's found in
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my life scripture, Jeremiah 29, 11 through 14.
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And I'm going to break down each
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scripture so you can understand what your blessing is as a single woman.
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I remember hearing this scripture at a woman's conference in my early,
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early, early, early Christian life.
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And that scripture, it would seem like when she spoke it, it just sat right in my spirit.
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It just sat there and it just remained there.
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And so that scripture and Psalms 91, Psalms 37, Psalms 23, there's many scriptures
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that are dropped in us and it stays in us for a reason, for a purpose.
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It helps build our faith, but it also builds our relationship with God.
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So this scripture, even though it says what it says has kind of dual meaning,
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you look at it, it was found in the book, Jeremiah 21, 29, 11 through 17.
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But also Daniel uses it and I love the book of Daniel because Daniel was a man
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of God for real and he stayed true to.
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God as a single male, as a single male, a lot of successful single females in the Bible.
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But like I said, sometimes God puts something in your heart and it sticks and it stays.
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And so I'll always love the book of Daniel and the book of Revelation.
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So like I said, you have scriptures that stick with you.
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Don't let them go. When you feel down and out, pull those babies out and begin
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to declare them over your life. So let's get started.
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The blessing of single, this is a bonus episode, once God spoke to me the single
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life, and I understood what he was saying and broke it down and even wrote a
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devotion about it, I was like, wow.
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And then at the end of all that, he says, Connie, go to Jeremiah 29 and 11.
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And I read it. He said, read verse 12. Read verse.
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13 and read verse 14. And I was like, wow.
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And I remember when he said it, I was like, Lord, you know, I was starting to
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give up on that scripture.
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And it's like, no, don't ever give up on the word of God. Because when we give
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up on the word of God, we literally give up on God.
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So let's go. The first part is for I know the plans I have for you.
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This is a blessing for a single person.
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God's plans are already established.
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God is not guessing about your life. He's not reacting to your circumstances.
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He is not waiting for you to catch up. He already knows.
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Now, 138 tells us, the Lord will fulfill his purpose for me.
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Acts 15, 18, known to God from eternity are all his works.
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What does this mean for you? your singleness is not outside of God's plan. It is included in it.
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Nothing about this season is accidental. Let's continue.
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Number two, plans to prosper you and not to harm you.
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This season is not meant to damage you. It's meant to develop you.
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The whole word prosper here is not just financial.
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It means wholeness, peace, completeness, and shalom.
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God's not using this season to withhold from you. He is using it to build you.
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Every good and perfect gift comes from above. James 1.17 No good thing does he withhold.
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Psalms 84.11 If you are in this season, it's not harming you. It is forming you.
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Three, plans to give you hope. This season has direction, not emptiness.
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Hope builds expectation. Not wishing, wishful thinking, but confident expectation
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that God is working ahead of you. Faith is the substance of things hoped for.
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May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace.
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Hebrews 11.1 and Romans 5.13 Your future is not uncertain.
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God is already preparing what you have not seen.
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Number four, and of future. You are not behind. You are being positioned.
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The word future implies and expected in a design outcome. Being confident in
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this, that what he began, a good work in you, that he will carry it to completion.
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Philippians 1.6 Your life is moving forward, even if it does not feel like it.
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God is not delaying you. He is aligning you.
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When you call on me and come and pray to me, I will listen to you.
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This is a season of assets.
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Notice the order. God is working and you are drawing closer.
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This season creates space for prayer, intimacy with God, dependence on Him.
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James 4 tells us to draw near to God and He will draw near to you.
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Call to me and I will answer you.
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Jeremiah 33, 11. Singleness gives you patience.
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Something powerful. Access without distraction.
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You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
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Undivided devotion produces revelation.
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This connection is directly with 1 Corinthians 7, 32-35.
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Undivided devotion. When your heart is not divided, your focus increases,
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your clarity increases, your discernment sharpens.
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Blessed are the pure in heart, for they should see God, Matthew 5, 8.
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This season is not empty. It is an opportunity to find God deeply.
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I want to read the whole Jeremiah 29, 11-14 in its entirety as we continue.
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It says in verse 11, and this translation is a King James translation,
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reads, for I know the thoughts that I think towards you, says the Lord,
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also peace, not of evil, to give you an expected end. Then shall you call upon me.
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And ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you.
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Verse 13, and ye shall seek me and find me, when ye search for me with all your
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heart. And verse 14 is a blessing.
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It says, I will be found by you, says the Lord, and I will turn away your captivity,
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and I will gather you from all the nations and from all the places whether I have driven you,
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says the Lord, and I will bring you again into a place whence I cause you to
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be carried away captive.
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In 1 Corinthians 7, 32 to 35, let's see what God is saying in this scripture.
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32, but I will have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried,
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careth for the things that belongs to the Lord, how he may please the Lord.
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But he that is married, careth for the things that are of the world,
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how he may please his wife. Verse 34, there is a difference also between a wife and a virgin.
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The unmarried woman careeth for the things of the Lord, that she might be holy,
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holy both in body and in spirit.
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But she that is married, careeth for the things of the world,
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how she may please her husband.
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And in verse 35, and this I speak for your own prophet. Not that I may cast
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a snare upon you, but that which is coming, that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
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And so that scripture is powerful. So let's continue. We see here that God has planned for us.
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Will be found when we search for him with our undivided devotion.
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But God is, what is when we talk about blessing, what does that mean?
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Blessing of singleness is not just freedom, time, and independence.
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The blessing is God forming you while revealing himself to you. I know.
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Isn't that powerful? Many people want the outcome but skip the process.
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However, without formation, you lack stability.
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Without discipline, you lack boundaries.
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Without intimacy with God, you lack discernment. And all those are required for what comes next.
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So God tells us that He will be found for us. Think about you as a single woman finding God.
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You search for Him and you find Him. It creates a comfort and a confidence.
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So remember, this season is not a delay, punishment, or gap in your life.
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It is a season of formation, access, and preparation under God's plan.
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If you misunderstand the season, you will try to escape it. But if you understand
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it, you will maximize it.
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Why is this important and what God is protecting you from?
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Understanding the blessing of singleness is not optional. It is essential because
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if you misunderstand the season, you will rush it, misuse it, or try to escape it.
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And in doing so, you step outside of God's protection and
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and timing. Proverbs 14, 12 tells us that there is a way that seems right to
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man, but in the end, there is death, the way to death.
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God is protecting you from premature connections. Not every connection is sent by God.
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Some are tests, distractions, or consequences of poor discernment.
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Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
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Do not awaken in love until it so desires.
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I was 423 and Song of Solomon 8.4.
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Why this matters. When you connect too early, you attach before you are ready.
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You ignore the red flags and you build on feelings instead of foundation.
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Number two, God is protecting you from emotional damage.
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Misused relationships often leave behind broken trust, confusion,
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and emotional instability.
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Hope deferred makes the heart sick, Romans 13, 12.
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The heart is deceitful above all things, Jeremiah 17, 9.
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Every emotional attachment shapes your expectation and responses.
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If not guarded, it creates patterns that carry into your future.
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Number three, God is protecting you from spiritual distractions.
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Wrong relationships don't just affect emotions. They affect your focus on God.
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Bad company corrupts good character.
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No one can serve two masters. 1 Corinthians 15.33 and Matthew 6.24.
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You can't build deep intimacy with God while constantly managing emotional chaos.
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4. God is protecting you from sexual sin and its consequences.
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This is one of the clearest warnings in scripture. The sexual immorality.
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1 Corinthians 6.18.
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The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, 1 Corinthians.
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6.13. What this protection covers? Planned pregnancy, sexual health risks,
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low ties, long-term emotional impact.
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And it matters because what feels like a moment can create long,
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lifelong consequences, permanent connections, and spiritual weight.
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Number five, God is protecting you from settling.
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We know we need that. God is protecting you from settling. When you don't understand
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your season, you lower your standards to escaping.
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Do not be unequally yoked. 2 Corinthians 6.14. I felt that one.
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He who finds a wife finds a good thing. Proverbs 18.22.
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There is power on the word of God for sure.
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But I felt a special sauce on this one.
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God is protecting you from settling. That's for somebody out there.
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When you don't understand your season, you lower your standards to escape it.
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Do not be unequally yoked. He who finds a wife finds a good thing.
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God design requires alignment, readiness, and discernment.
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Selling too early can tie you to someone who cannot walk with you in purpose.
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And number six, God is protecting your purpose.
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The blessing of singleness, that's what this list is for. Your purpose is not
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secondary to a relationship.
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Seek first the kingdom of God. Your purpose is seeking first God.
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That's it. The rest is extra. It's that all these things will be added, right?
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So that's what he does. Proverbs 19, 21 says, many are the plans in a person's
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heart, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails.
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Why does this matter? The wrong relationship can delay your calling,
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distract your focus, and drain your energy.
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Number seven, God is protecting your identity.
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When identity is not rooted in God. It becomes rooted in people.
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Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you Jeremiah 1.5.
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You are a chosen generation 1 Peter 2.9.
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This is so powerful. God is protecting your identity.
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Your identity is not rooted. If it's not rooted in God, it becomes rooted in people.
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You become a people pleaser. If you don't know who you are, you would accept anything.
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You would tolerate confusion and you would seek validation instead of walking in authority.
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The deeper truth, God is not withholding relationships for you.
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Is protecting your peace, your body, your mind, your purpose, and your future.
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Before we close out, I just have to repeat these. So I want them in your heart.
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This is not a curse. It's a blessing.
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And the blessing starts in Jeremiah 29, 11 through 14, that God has our future
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wrapped in his hand, in his heart.
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And he says, well, I think I have thoughts about it.
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So God is not just making you do something for no purpose. He said,
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but I'm thinking about you.
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I have thoughts and plans for you. So what are those thoughts and plans?
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They come when we seek God. And we know that God is not playing hide and go seek.
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Sometimes he is, but sometimes he's not. So when you seek me with all your heart,
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so you can't come to God half-hearted.
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So let's go over the blessings. We found them in Jeremiah 29, 11.
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We also mentioned them here. And it says, God is protecting you from premature connections.
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If you connect too early and you will ignore the red flags, I call them the
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red flashing lights and sometimes even the sirens.
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The blessing that God is doing, he's protecting you from emotional damage,
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emotional instability.
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Hope deferred makes the heart sick. The heart is deceitful, deceitful above all things.
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Our heart tricks us into thinking this is okay.
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Every emotional attachment shapes your expectation and your responses.
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If it's not guarded, it creates patterns that carry into your future.
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Number three, God is protecting you from spiritual distractions.
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Wrong relationships don't just affect emotions. They affect your focus on God.
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That company corrupts good character. God is protecting you from sexual sin and its consequences.
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Flee from sexual immorality, 1 Corinthians 6, 18.
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The body is not meant for sexual immorality. He did not create you for that.
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He created you for one man, and they were inside of a marriage covenant relationship.
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And so many of our singles are walking around damage, from emotional damage,
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because of this greatest one, sexual sin.
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Number five, God is protecting you from settling.
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Oh my gosh, can I tell you about that one? Settling, mean you go like,
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God is taking too long. And so we lower our expectation and we begin to accept what is not of God.
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God tells us in 2 Corinthians, do not be unequally young.
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It matters because who you connect with has to be able to walk with you in purpose.
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And many times, and I made a mistake, got married to a guy, thought it was going
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to be all right, but we cannot walk together in what God has called me because
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they want to drag you away from it.
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That's not important right now. Let's go do this.
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And it's like, no, I need to pray. I need to say the Bible. I need to go to
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church. Keeping it real.
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God is protecting your purpose. Why?
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Because when you seek first the kingdom of God, that Bible scripture tells us
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all these things will be added unto you.
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Give me a minute where I find that scripture so you can hear it.
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Matthew 6, 30. Love the scripture.
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Matthew 6, 33.
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Let's find it and let's read it. I'm saying a little long in this one because it's powerful.
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But first, let's go to 633. I'm going to read 34 also in my King James Version.
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It says, but seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness,
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and all these things should be added unto you.
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34, take therefore no thought for tomorrow, but tomorrow should take thought
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for the things of itself.
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Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof. So stay focused on what God has,
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because that's where you're protected.
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You're not protected when you get ahead of him.
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And number seven, God is protecting your identity. Before I formed you in the
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womb, I knew you, Jeremiah 1.5.
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When you don't have identity, you will accept anything.
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You will tolerate confusion as part of that unknown relationship you have,
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and you will seek validation instead of walking in authority.
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God is protecting us. What you call delay, God often calls protection.
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The Lord is a sudden chill.
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And good things does not withhold from those who are blameless.
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If God is holding something back, it is not to harm you.
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It is to prepare you and protect you.
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And when the time is right, what he releases will not confuse you,
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break you, or pull you away from him.
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It will align with everything he has been building for you. Thank you for being
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a part of the Diary of a Black Woman podcast.
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I do appreciate each and every one of you.
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I hope this episode does challenge you and give you something you can apply to your life.
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Re-listen to it and just take a little chunk out and build up that most powerful
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relationship you'll ever have.
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That relationship is with your Lord and Savior. Take time to reflect.
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Take time to give back to God. Take it back to Him. Ask them,
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hey, I need you to help me out.
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I thought I was doing this right, but I see that I'm not.
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And begin to read the chapters, 1 Corinthians 6, chapter 6 and chapter 7.
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I'm Yose County Morris, and this is a Diary of a Black Woman podcast.
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And I have another powerful series coming, so I will see you at the next series. God bless. Bye-bye.
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Family, thank you for spending this time with me today. To every woman listening
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who has ever felt hidden, overlooked, or pushed aside, I want you to hear me clearly.
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God has not forgotten you, and neither have I.
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That's why I moved everything to our new home on pod page, so you would have
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one place to connect with me, read the devotionals, listen to the podcast,
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No pressure, just love and community.
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Before we leave, I want to speak the word that I close with every time because
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somebody needs this reminder today. It comes from Jeremiah 29, 11, 14.
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I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and
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not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future, then you will call upon
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me and come and pray to me and I will listen to you.
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You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
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I will be found by you, declares the Lord.
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Beloved, God has a plan for your life, a real one, a good one,
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and as long as you keep seeking him, you will find him even from the hidden places. I love you.
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I'm praying for you, and I'll meet you next time.
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Welcome to the Diary of a Black Woman podcast, where we pray bold prayers,
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walk in bold faith, and expect a bold God to show up.
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I'm your host, Connie Morris, and we open every episode with the same unshakable
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confidence Jabez had in 1 Chronicles 4.10.
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Lord, bless me indeed, enlarge my territory, let your hand be with me,
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keep me from evil, and keep me from causing pain. And the Bible says,
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God granted his request.
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So if you're here today, get ready, because we're praying big,
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believing big, and walking in everything God promised. Let's begin.
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Welcome to the Diary of a Black Woman Podcast.
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I want to welcome you all back. I'm your host, Connie Morris. We are...
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Closing out our series, The Single Life, our last episode, we talked a lot about
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the danger of misusing singleness.
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And you have to go back and listen to that. That was really good.
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But today, we're on our final episode. It's a bonus episode.
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This episode is titled, The Blessing of Singleness. And this is where everything comes together.
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So let's get into it. The anchor scripture is found in Jeremiah 29,
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11, and it says, For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord.
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But really, you have to read the whole thing. Remember, if you're going to read
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the Bible, don't just read one little scripture.
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Read the scripture before and the scripture after it, so you can get the true
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context of the scripture.
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So we're going to talk about the blessings of singleness. And it's found in
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my life scripture, Jeremiah 29, 11 through 14.
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And I'm going to break down each
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scripture so you can understand what your blessing is as a single woman.
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I remember hearing this scripture at a woman's conference in my early,
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early, early, early Christian life.
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And that scripture, it would seem like when she spoke it, it just sat right in my spirit.
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It just sat there and it just remained there.
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And so that scripture and Psalms 91, Psalms 37, Psalms 23, there's many scriptures
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that are dropped in us and it stays in us for a reason, for a purpose.
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It helps build our faith, but it also builds our relationship with God.
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So this scripture, even though it says what it says has kind of dual meaning,
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you look at it, it was found in the book, Jeremiah 21, 29, 11 through 17.
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But also Daniel uses it and I love the book of Daniel because Daniel was a man
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of God for real and he stayed true to.
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God as a single male, as a single male, a lot of successful single females in the Bible.
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But like I said, sometimes God puts something in your heart and it sticks and it stays.
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And so I'll always love the book of Daniel and the book of Revelation.
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So like I said, you have scriptures that stick with you.
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Don't let them go. When you feel down and out, pull those babies out and begin
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to declare them over your life. So let's get started.
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The blessing of single, this is a bonus episode, once God spoke to me the single
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life, and I understood what he was saying and broke it down and even wrote a
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devotion about it, I was like, wow.
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And then at the end of all that, he says, Connie, go to Jeremiah 29 and 11.
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And I read it. He said, read verse 12. Read verse.
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13 and read verse 14. And I was like, wow.
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And I remember when he said it, I was like, Lord, you know, I was starting to
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give up on that scripture.
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And it's like, no, don't ever give up on the word of God. Because when we give
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up on the word of God, we literally give up on God.
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So let's go. The first part is for I know the plans I have for you.
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This is a blessing for a single person.
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God's plans are already established.
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God is not guessing about your life. He's not reacting to your circumstances.
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He is not waiting for you to catch up. He already knows.
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Now, 138 tells us, the Lord will fulfill his purpose for me.
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Acts 15, 18, known to God from eternity are all his works.
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What does this mean for you? your singleness is not outside of God's plan. It is included in it.
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Nothing about this season is accidental. Let's continue.
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Number two, plans to prosper you and not to harm you.
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This season is not meant to damage you. It's meant to develop you.
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The whole word prosper here is not just financial.
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It means wholeness, peace, completeness, and shalom.
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God's not using this season to withhold from you. He is using it to build you.
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Every good and perfect gift comes from above. James 1.17 No good thing does he withhold.
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Psalms 84.11 If you are in this season, it's not harming you. It is forming you.
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Three, plans to give you hope. This season has direction, not emptiness.
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Hope builds expectation. Not wishing, wishful thinking, but confident expectation
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that God is working ahead of you. Faith is the substance of things hoped for.
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May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace.
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Hebrews 11.1 and Romans 5.13 Your future is not uncertain.
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God is already preparing what you have not seen.
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Number four, and of future. You are not behind. You are being positioned.
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The word future implies and expected in a design outcome. Being confident in
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this, that what he began, a good work in you, that he will carry it to completion.
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Philippians 1.6 Your life is moving forward, even if it does not feel like it.
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God is not delaying you. He is aligning you.
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When you call on me and come and pray to me, I will listen to you.
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This is a season of assets.
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Notice the order. God is working and you are drawing closer.
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This season creates space for prayer, intimacy with God, dependence on Him.
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James 4 tells us to draw near to God and He will draw near to you.
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Call to me and I will answer you.
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Jeremiah 33, 11. Singleness gives you patience.
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Something powerful. Access without distraction.
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You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
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Undivided devotion produces revelation.
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This connection is directly with 1 Corinthians 7, 32-35.
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Undivided devotion. When your heart is not divided, your focus increases,
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your clarity increases, your discernment sharpens.
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Blessed are the pure in heart, for they should see God, Matthew 5, 8.
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This season is not empty. It is an opportunity to find God deeply.
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I want to read the whole Jeremiah 29, 11-14 in its entirety as we continue.
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It says in verse 11, and this translation is a King James translation,
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reads, for I know the thoughts that I think towards you, says the Lord,
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also peace, not of evil, to give you an expected end. Then shall you call upon me.
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And ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you.
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Verse 13, and ye shall seek me and find me, when ye search for me with all your
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heart. And verse 14 is a blessing.
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It says, I will be found by you, says the Lord, and I will turn away your captivity,
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and I will gather you from all the nations and from all the places whether I have driven you,
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says the Lord, and I will bring you again into a place whence I cause you to
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be carried away captive.
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In 1 Corinthians 7, 32 to 35, let's see what God is saying in this scripture.
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32, but I will have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried,
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careth for the things that belongs to the Lord, how he may please the Lord.
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But he that is married, careth for the things that are of the world,
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how he may please his wife. Verse 34, there is a difference also between a wife and a virgin.
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The unmarried woman careeth for the things of the Lord, that she might be holy,
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holy both in body and in spirit.
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But she that is married, careeth for the things of the world,
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how she may please her husband.
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And in verse 35, and this I speak for your own prophet. Not that I may cast
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a snare upon you, but that which is coming, that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
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And so that scripture is powerful. So let's continue. We see here that God has planned for us.
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Will be found when we search for him with our undivided devotion.
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But God is, what is when we talk about blessing, what does that mean?
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Blessing of singleness is not just freedom, time, and independence.
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The blessing is God forming you while revealing himself to you. I know.
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Isn't that powerful? Many people want the outcome but skip the process.
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However, without formation, you lack stability.
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Without discipline, you lack boundaries.
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Without intimacy with God, you lack discernment. And all those are required for what comes next.
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So God tells us that He will be found for us. Think about you as a single woman finding God.
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You search for Him and you find Him. It creates a comfort and a confidence.
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So remember, this season is not a delay, punishment, or gap in your life.
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It is a season of formation, access, and preparation under God's plan.
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If you misunderstand the season, you will try to escape it. But if you understand
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it, you will maximize it.
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Why is this important and what God is protecting you from?
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Understanding the blessing of singleness is not optional. It is essential because
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if you misunderstand the season, you will rush it, misuse it, or try to escape it.
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And in doing so, you step outside of God's protection and
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and timing. Proverbs 14, 12 tells us that there is a way that seems right to
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man, but in the end, there is death, the way to death.
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God is protecting you from premature connections. Not every connection is sent by God.
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Some are tests, distractions, or consequences of poor discernment.
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Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
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Do not awaken in love until it so desires.
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I was 423 and Song of Solomon 8.4.
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Why this matters. When you connect too early, you attach before you are ready.
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You ignore the red flags and you build on feelings instead of foundation.
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Number two, God is protecting you from emotional damage.
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Misused relationships often leave behind broken trust, confusion,
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and emotional instability.
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Hope deferred makes the heart sick, Romans 13, 12.
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The heart is deceitful above all things, Jeremiah 17, 9.
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Every emotional attachment shapes your expectation and responses.
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If not guarded, it creates patterns that carry into your future.
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Number three, God is protecting you from spiritual distractions.
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Wrong relationships don't just affect emotions. They affect your focus on God.
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Bad company corrupts good character.
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No one can serve two masters. 1 Corinthians 15.33 and Matthew 6.24.
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You can't build deep intimacy with God while constantly managing emotional chaos.
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4. God is protecting you from sexual sin and its consequences.
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This is one of the clearest warnings in scripture. The sexual immorality.
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1 Corinthians 6.18.
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The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, 1 Corinthians.
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6.13. What this protection covers? Planned pregnancy, sexual health risks,
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low ties, long-term emotional impact.
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And it matters because what feels like a moment can create long,
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lifelong consequences, permanent connections, and spiritual weight.
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Number five, God is protecting you from settling.
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We know we need that. God is protecting you from settling. When you don't understand
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your season, you lower your standards to escaping.
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Do not be unequally yoked. 2 Corinthians 6.14. I felt that one.
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He who finds a wife finds a good thing. Proverbs 18.22.
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There is power on the word of God for sure.
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But I felt a special sauce on this one.
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God is protecting you from settling. That's for somebody out there.
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When you don't understand your season, you lower your standards to escape it.
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Do not be unequally yoked. He who finds a wife finds a good thing.
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God design requires alignment, readiness, and discernment.
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Selling too early can tie you to someone who cannot walk with you in purpose.
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And number six, God is protecting your purpose.
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The blessing of singleness, that's what this list is for. Your purpose is not
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secondary to a relationship.
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Seek first the kingdom of God. Your purpose is seeking first God.
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That's it. The rest is extra. It's that all these things will be added, right?
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So that's what he does. Proverbs 19, 21 says, many are the plans in a person's
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heart, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails.
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Why does this matter? The wrong relationship can delay your calling,
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distract your focus, and drain your energy.
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Number seven, God is protecting your identity.
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When identity is not rooted in God. It becomes rooted in people.
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Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you Jeremiah 1.5.
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You are a chosen generation 1 Peter 2.9.
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This is so powerful. God is protecting your identity.
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Your identity is not rooted. If it's not rooted in God, it becomes rooted in people.
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You become a people pleaser. If you don't know who you are, you would accept anything.
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You would tolerate confusion and you would seek validation instead of walking in authority.
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The deeper truth, God is not withholding relationships for you.
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Is protecting your peace, your body, your mind, your purpose, and your future.
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Before we close out, I just have to repeat these. So I want them in your heart.
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This is not a curse. It's a blessing.
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And the blessing starts in Jeremiah 29, 11 through 14, that God has our future
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wrapped in his hand, in his heart.
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And he says, well, I think I have thoughts about it.
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So God is not just making you do something for no purpose. He said,
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but I'm thinking about you.
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I have thoughts and plans for you. So what are those thoughts and plans?
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They come when we seek God. And we know that God is not playing hide and go seek.
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Sometimes he is, but sometimes he's not. So when you seek me with all your heart,
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so you can't come to God half-hearted.
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So let's go over the blessings. We found them in Jeremiah 29, 11.
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We also mentioned them here. And it says, God is protecting you from premature connections.
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If you connect too early and you will ignore the red flags, I call them the
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red flashing lights and sometimes even the sirens.
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The blessing that God is doing, he's protecting you from emotional damage,
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emotional instability.
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Hope deferred makes the heart sick. The heart is deceitful, deceitful above all things.
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Our heart tricks us into thinking this is okay.
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Every emotional attachment shapes your expectation and your responses.
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If it's not guarded, it creates patterns that carry into your future.
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Number three, God is protecting you from spiritual distractions.
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Wrong relationships don't just affect emotions. They affect your focus on God.
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That company corrupts good character. God is protecting you from sexual sin and its consequences.
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Flee from sexual immorality, 1 Corinthians 6, 18.
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The body is not meant for sexual immorality. He did not create you for that.
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He created you for one man, and they were inside of a marriage covenant relationship.
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And so many of our singles are walking around damage, from emotional damage,
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because of this greatest one, sexual sin.
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Number five, God is protecting you from settling.
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Oh my gosh, can I tell you about that one? Settling, mean you go like,
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God is taking too long. And so we lower our expectation and we begin to accept what is not of God.
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God tells us in 2 Corinthians, do not be unequally young.
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It matters because who you connect with has to be able to walk with you in purpose.
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And many times, and I made a mistake, got married to a guy, thought it was going
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to be all right, but we cannot walk together in what God has called me because
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they want to drag you away from it.
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That's not important right now. Let's go do this.
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And it's like, no, I need to pray. I need to say the Bible. I need to go to
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church. Keeping it real.
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God is protecting your purpose. Why?
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Because when you seek first the kingdom of God, that Bible scripture tells us
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all these things will be added unto you.
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Give me a minute where I find that scripture so you can hear it.
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Matthew 6, 30. Love the scripture.
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Matthew 6, 33.
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Let's find it and let's read it. I'm saying a little long in this one because it's powerful.
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But first, let's go to 633. I'm going to read 34 also in my King James Version.
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It says, but seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness,
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and all these things should be added unto you.
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34, take therefore no thought for tomorrow, but tomorrow should take thought
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for the things of itself.
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Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof. So stay focused on what God has,
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because that's where you're protected.
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You're not protected when you get ahead of him.
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And number seven, God is protecting your identity. Before I formed you in the
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womb, I knew you, Jeremiah 1.5.
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When you don't have identity, you will accept anything.
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You will tolerate confusion as part of that unknown relationship you have,
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and you will seek validation instead of walking in authority.
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God is protecting us. What you call delay, God often calls protection.
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The Lord is a sudden chill.
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And good things does not withhold from those who are blameless.
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If God is holding something back, it is not to harm you.
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It is to prepare you and protect you.
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And when the time is right, what he releases will not confuse you,
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break you, or pull you away from him.
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It will align with everything he has been building for you. Thank you for being
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a part of the Diary of a Black Woman podcast.
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I do appreciate each and every one of you.
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I hope this episode does challenge you and give you something you can apply to your life.
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Re-listen to it and just take a little chunk out and build up that most powerful
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relationship you'll ever have.
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That relationship is with your Lord and Savior. Take time to reflect.
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Take time to give back to God. Take it back to Him. Ask them,
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hey, I need you to help me out.
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I thought I was doing this right, but I see that I'm not.
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And begin to read the chapters, 1 Corinthians 6, chapter 6 and chapter 7.
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I'm Yose County Morris, and this is a Diary of a Black Woman podcast.
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And I have another powerful series coming, so I will see you at the next series. God bless. Bye-bye.
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Family, thank you for spending this time with me today. To every woman listening
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who has ever felt hidden, overlooked, or pushed aside, I want you to hear me clearly.
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God has not forgotten you, and neither have I.
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That's why I moved everything to our new home on pod page, so you would have
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one place to connect with me, read the devotionals, listen to the podcast,
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No pressure, just love and community.
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Before we leave, I want to speak the word that I close with every time because
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somebody needs this reminder today. It comes from Jeremiah 29, 11, 14.
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I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and
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not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future, then you will call upon
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me and come and pray to me and I will listen to you.
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You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
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I will be found by you, declares the Lord.
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Beloved, God has a plan for your life, a real one, a good one,
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and as long as you keep seeking him, you will find him even from the hidden places. I love you.
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I'm praying for you, and I'll meet you next time.